AND IF ANYONE MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE THAT!!!!!! KICK THEM IN THE JUNK!!!!!! WHATEVER JUNK THEY HAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!! KICK ‘EM REALLY HARD!!!!!!!!!!
Look, it’s not about that. It’s not about making anyone who’s cisgendered feel bad. It’s about waking the cisgendered people waking the fuck up and ACKNOWLEDGING THEIR PRIVILEGE as people who are cisgendered. We pass. We pass. WE PASS. Okay? The fact cisgendered people are perceived, upon sight alone, as fitting within the societally constructed binaries of female or male, gives us a fucking PASS. Those who are trans*/non-binary/genderbending/genderqueer are perceived as visibly “other” and so oppressed in ways that cisgendered people are not. Throw in race, economic background (or perceived economic background), gender expression, and a whole host of other factors, and you’ve got a heaping mix of intersectional oppression going on. So, again, I repeat. No one should make anyone feel awful because of their gender identity, but cisgendered people need to be self-aware of the privilege that passing affords them
EDTA: Also, as another person mentioned in the comments, talking about reacting with violence towards anyone because they’ve called you out for being/saying something ignorant or out-of-line is wholly uncalled for. People need to LISTEN to the frustration of oppressed people and try to understand where it’s coming from. LISTEN when they tell you about their lived experiences, their struggle, their pain, their fight. Open up your mind and heart and learn something. We should apologize to when we’ve made offense, become more informed, and go forth into the world to DO BETTER. Okay?
Now, that is not to say that I don’t face my all sorts of oppression by being a female-identifying QPOC, but that is not the point of my post.
Note: I would also like to apologize now, if I’ve overstepped anywhere. It is not my intention to speak for anyone who is non-cisgendered. If I have, I will work harder to be more informed and mind how and what I say.
Extra Note: I hope to God I made sense up there because I really wanted to express myself more eloquently, to be perfectly honest. Heh.
you can’t get mad at a rich person for being rich or a white person for being white or a cis person for being cis but you can be mad at them for being a shitty person and those things don’t automatically make you a shitty person so stop pretending like they do
You can also hate…
^ THANK YOU PRAISE FOR BEEFTONY’S COMMENT.
The OP’s comment sounds like some cis white tears to me, and they taste oh so delicious. It’s easy for you to say when you are not a part of an oppressed group. You try being a POC or a person with disabilities or someone who’s LGBTQ+ or — hell! — all of the a-goddamn-bove. These are people who are maimed and murdered simply for existing. POC are still oppressed — still harmed, degraded, scorned just for being non-white. I am angered by whiteness and the systems that allow whiteness to carry so much fucking power. I am angered by those white people who refuse to acknowledge that their privilege exists and choose to remain wilfully ignorant. So don’t tell me who I can or cannot cast my anger upon. I’m a queer, disordered, Woman of Color. You don’t get to do that to me.
Dear Ann Romney,
I saw your speech the other night. Thanks for talking to me from the heart, because you pretty much confirmed what I already knew to be true, which is that you’re the type of lady with hand sanitizer coursing through her veins.
I’ve known wealthy, astringent women like you all my life. I grew up around them. Not with them. Around them.
My mother always looked up to women like you. She respects you, and she wants to be more like you. Like the Oscar de la Renta you wore for the speech, you are an aspirational brand for women like my mom. That’s fine. I understand why she thinks that way, and, like Laura Bush before you, my mom is entitled to her heroes.
That’s not to say I don’t respect you. I certainly do. I know how hard it is to maintain that level of poise, and I’m familiar with the pathological dedication it takes to keep up appearances. Women like you are a special breed, and like all your fancy prancing horses, I know how incredibly difficult it is to make it look so easy. (By the way, can we just take a moment and savor the delicious irony of a politician’s wife who competes in dressage? Mmm. That’s some Tom Wolfe-level stuff, right there.)
For the record, I’m not going to vote for your husband. Don’t worry, though. My mother definitely will, and if your husband happens to win, I have no doubt that you’d make an excellent First Lady. You were born for that kind of thing. You’d rock the East Wing Jackie style with a Republican twist, and I’m sure you’d pick one helluva china pattern.
Whichever way it goes in November, you’re destined to continue living a fine life filled with philanthropy and politics. You’ll always be important to some circle, and I’m happy for you. Speaking for the rest of us, though — and this is coming from my heart — stop using your money and influence to chip away at women’s reproductive rights.
That great collective sigh you’re hearing from the women whom you profess to “love” so much isn’t because we had a rough day. It’s because we don’t appreciate the hypocrisy of someone like you kissing our asses on national television while quietly working against us.
Please feel free to do whatever you like with the window dressing, but don’t spend another second advocating against a woman’s choice. At a certain point, that kind of thing is really unforgivable.
Yours in a red dress,
Sad that I have to bring this back out so soon, but here it is. Seriously, though, my fellow light-skinned folks, let’s get it together.
Being rejected for your lightness is not nor will it ever be, the same as being rejected for your darkness or visible…
Wow. It’s a bit heartbreaking to watch
“I hate being black because everyone else feels it’s a curse. Facebook is circulating a video entitled “Dark Skin” which is unapologetic in highlighting the horrific mental complexities centered around the diversity of skin color within the African American community. Overall, young and old women of color were telling their stories of when they realized being dark skinned wasn’t beautiful.
It’s not uncommon to find girls that have had traumatic events take place within their childhood and even adulthood that hinders their ability to develop an appreciation for their skin color because society tells them (us) that they are not beautiful because they are not light. I sure as hell can relate. Up until the 8th grade I thought I was ugly. I literally hit my head up against the mirror every time I saw myself because I was being called “Darkie” by my grandfather who had curly hair, hazel green eyes and was as light as can be.His sister was a “passer” it took a while for people to realize she was really black. Her red hair fooled a lot of people and it pierced my soul whenever she called me “tar baby.”
I hate being black every time I like a boy and he tells me he doesn’t date dark skin women but he’s willing to have sex. I hate being black every time I meet a guy and things are going well and he takes me to meet his friends and they say “you can do better she’s too dark, what will your kids look like (true story!). I hate the idea of my complexion being such a hindrance to the prosperity of my life and it is not something I can change.I hate being black and so that’s why at the age of 30 I say I’m an African. I may not be able to call to Nigeria for Granny or speak the language but I claim Nigeria. My grandmother thinks I’m foolish because I want to know where I come from to better trace my roots. She said “you’re a n____a and that’s all you need to know.” She hates that fact that I mainly date African men because for some odd reason when they see my dark skin, white teeth and black gums they tell me I’m beautiful. I can finally say I believe it and them.I recently started the Jessica LaShawn Foundation in an effort to unite dark skinned women within the urban communities of Chicago. I’ve gotten a lot of negative feedback saying that I am aiding in the division within our own people but documentaries such as this showcase that we need our own tools for empowerment.”
wow..its so sad that they feel like they’re not beautiful. White skin and straight hair is not the definition of beauty. Everyone is beautiful, and people have to stop making other feels like they’re not.
Who taught you to hate yourself? - Malcolm X
This is for every light-skinned PoC out there who claims they don’t have any privileges at all just because they have light skin. Yes you do, and on so many levels. So, please…own up that, yeah?
EDTA: Siiiigghhhh. It’s also really fucking sad that this person couldn’t see themselves as beautiful until African men found her attractive; that she hadn’t learned to see it for herself. And on that note, there are issues with light skin vs. dark skin and skin whitening in various countries in Africa, as well.
When militant atheists claim that they are oppressed by “religious privilege”, what they’re really doing is taking Christian privilege and misrepresenting it as “religious privilege” in order to erase the oppression faced by minority religions. Why?…